Friday, February 13, 2009

How to Stay Single

According to my recollection - I thought Forbes came out with their Best Cities to be Single list each year around Valentine's day. I decided to contact their editor and beg them to p l e a s e leave Denver off the list this year!

Ugh. You have no idea how awful it is, as a single woman in Denver to be shot between the eyes with that ammunition in the middle of a conversation with your married friends!

You know, you're just talking about what's going on in your life and they look all confused and say, "But Denver is one of the best cities in the country to be single..." You just know they want to complete that sentence with " clearly it's your problem."

I've lived here for six and half years... and I figured out after three years It's the best city in the country to REMAIN single.

Seriously. I know a lot of single men. And I know a lot of single women in this city. If the high quality, gorgeous, successful, smart and fit women that I know are all on the bench (to use a sports metaphor) the men must have it pretty dang easy.

Ah. Easy. There you go. That is the precisely the problem in Denver.
The men here encounter plenty of women who think it's normal to have sex by the third date. Not only that, they think waiting 'til the third date is 'holding out'.

With pickings like that, why would men put in the effort with a quality woman who exhibits actual standards? Why would they expend any energy on a decent woman when they can just go down to LoDo, pick up some chick and get lucky that night? Who needs a relationship when those needs are met?

I know I sound defensive and whiny... but it is this knowledge that has made me a bit of a hermit since ending my last relationship um --- Oh wow --- it's almost 5 months ago! Ugh.

I find myself with such a defeatist attitude.
I think, Why should I go out? If I go out to a club tonight I'm not going to meet a nice Catholic guy, who values abstinence. One who values God's way even though it's not always instantly gratifying.

Nope. If I go out tonight, I'm just going to have to weed through the creeps I've already weeded through. They just keep growing back. (mixing metaphors now!)

I have sort of resigned myself to being alone because I'm not going to find half the man Mr. Burns is... and even Mr. Burns proved not to be enough man for me. What's the point?

And for the record, when I got to Forbes' website it revealed that they put the list out in October - and Denver is bumped down to the 20s. Praise God!


Jen said...

Just wanted to say "Happy Single's Awareness Day!" I hope God gives you a special touch of His love today. I actually thought of you this morning while I was eating my Cheerios and wondering how you were doing today. :) I love your blog. You seems like such a intelligent caring woman. Those Denver men are crazy to miss out on you. Keep writing!

Gail and Keith said...

Catholic church says:
"St Raphael is the patron saint for happy encounters and it is to him those fearing the Valentine's post should properly direct their prayers." BBC


knit_tgz said...

I have sort of resigned myself to being alone because I'm not going to find half the man Mr. Burns is... and even Mr. Burns proved not to be enough man for me. What's the point?

I hope there's a point. I hope there's some man man enough for me, and that we find each other and get to love each other. And the same for you, of course. But I know how you feel. We need miracles...

P.S. Word verification "habenti"

knit_tgz said...

Hi. I am not adding to any of my blogs, but I hope to return some day :) I actually hope to return to crafting, to keeping my house more organized, and to exercising all this year :D

I do not know latin, but my mother-tongue is similar enough to latin that I know that "habenti" is some declination of "the one who has". I found it funny, as we were somewhat discussing having and not having (not in a possessive sense, I hope). I'm a geek, though, so sometimes things I find funny are not funny by usual standards.

Anyway, these latest word verifications at least sound somewhat like words, not like the oldest of the "HJKLKHJJJKJ" variety that made me get them wrong half the time.

TRS said...

Thanks for the explanation. I notice word similarities often as well!

The other day one of my word verifications was 'hopeing' which I also found apropo!!

Anonymous said...

Don't you think that as a precious child of God that he will do good things for you? He loves you! He will not fail to give you good things. They just might not be what you think you need.