Monday, August 02, 2010

What Got Me Here

A friend of mine is dating a new guy - they had three dates in three days, complete twitterpation, with no plans to slow down.
A few days later I text-ed her a smirky inquiry, "How's the guy?" Her response, "Meh."

So when I saw her this weekend, I got the lowdown. He seems insecure and moody.
Red flag.

Suddenly, I feel like I know everything.
"I've dated insecure and moody. It doesn't go well. If you want to give it more time, go ahead - but be prepared to end it."

We talked some more, and I asked if she was walking on eggshells around him. Yes.
Oh dear. It's not going to get better.

I'm afraid that smug, "I'm in a great relationship." attitude is about to take over and I'm a bit shocked by it.
I know now that we all want to be with someone where you never have to edit your thoughts and words. With whom you can just be. Comfortable.
I told her that with McTwitchy, there are no eggshells. We each can say anything we're thinking and it is accepted. Even if it's not agreed upon. (I had that with one other guy - and would have waited my entire life to find it again. It wasn't Mr. Burns btw!)

I made dinner Thursday night for McTwitchy and me. I had just barely cleared the table when he started the dishes - CHEERFULLY!
What a difference! I hate comparing him to Mr. Burns but - Mr. B would have done the dishes while making a big fuss over how great he was for doing so.

I told another friend about a scenario in which McTwitchy was not only a good sport, but calm and cool and practical. All the while, showing me concern and affection.
When the comparison to Mr. Burns came up she said, "Mr. Burns prepared you for McTwitchy."

Oh my! Did he!
My instant response, "Yes! So that I could appreciate McTwitchy all the more."

He's sweet, and calm. Affectionate and kind. Thoughtful if not a little scattered. (that's okay) He's stressed and vulnerable but man enough to share his worries with me, knowing that I'm not judging him.
He's funny and thinks I'm funny too. He thinks I'm beautiful. He thinks I'm wonderful. He thinks I look like a model!! Ha!
He is himself with me, and I with him. I really like who he is.

And as I'm about to enter Smug Relationship Mode - I am bolstered by the song I discovered only a couple years ago when I first discovered the group Selah. This song became my inspiration to carry on with finding love.

Bless the Broken Road

The specific lines:
Every long lost dream
Led me to where you are
Others who broke my heart
They were just Northern Stars
Pointing me on my way
Into your loving arms
This much I know is true
That God blessed the broken road
and led me straight to you

The above link will take you to to listen to the song. Be patient and sit through the opening page - you don't have to sign up for anything!!


Genevra said...

*big grin*

How about instead of smug relationship mode, just happy to be enjoying a great moment mode. I don't think you are a smug kind of person. :)

Oh, and eggshells are never fun. I feel for your friend.

TRS said...

Of course I'm kidding about being smug.
That's why it is capitalized!

Stacey said...

This post put a big smile on my face. So glad that "here" is such a good place for you!

Genevra said...

Hehe. Sometimes I don't make that connection when I read blogs. Oops. :)

TRS said...

I take after A.A. Milne. In Winnie the Pooh, the affected titles are capitalized... like when Piglet describes himself as A Very Small Animal. And Pooh describes himself as A Bear of Very Little Brain. Or something is a Very Bad Idea!!!!