Monday, August 09, 2010

Bad Timing and Great People

I've been turning something over and over in my head.

It's part of a conversation I had with McTwitchy - we were talking about timing - and how we're both in tough places career-wise. He questioned the wisdom of starting a relationship right now. I understand what he is saying.

My response asserted that when you find someone that you can really connect with, you have to see how it goes. I mean, why be alone your entire life just because of bad timing?

He said, "Yes, but there are a lot of great people out there." Suggesting that you don't get just one shot.

This astounded me. I had to bite my tongue to keep from saying, "No there are not!!"
Where are all these great people he's talking about? Is he saying that I'm not that special? I was completely bewildered. What IS he talking about?

Finally it occurred to me: OH! HE'S NOT DATING MEN. HE'S DATING WOMEN! He has a completely different perspective!
From where he stands there are a lot of really great people out there. Plus, he can date anyone 5 years older than him to 20 years younger. His pool is deep and wide.
And in general - just nicer people.

From where I stand... not so much! Sure, I can date the same age range - but I don't want to!
20 years younger than me is younger than my nephew! Yuck!
5 years older than me is - well old. And divorced. And paunchy, old, womanizer-type men. Not to mention the young womanizer-type men.

Oh, the inequity!

1 comment:

Genevra said...

This post made me laugh, because it does go to show the different perspectives people have. Which personally I agree with him that there are a lot of great people out there and I date men. I also agree with you that even if the timing isn't perfect, (and what is life is perfect?), that you see where it goes. It's part of the getting to know you process. Very interesting conversation.

Thankfully each new guy I embark on a relationship with has been an improvement upon the last. Though I am getting a little tired of the gradual improvement process, and sometimes would just like to skip to the end already.

I like you and him together and the conversations you have. :)