Life has been a bit uneventful this past week as the object of my affection was out of town.
I'm not sitting around pining for him though. I managed to spend lots of time with girlfriends.
One friend got engaged during Holy Week, another had a birthday... there hasn't really been a dull moment.
Friday night my friend Kafi and I went to a party hosted by one of my favorite online stores... ModCloth.com!
Their writers were in town for a writers conference, and if you check out their website you'll understand why creative writing is so important to their product descriptions.
We met some of the writers and I told them that they're like J. Peterman for Anthropology type clothes!
Here's ModCloth's blog post about the event. As a registered shopper on their site, I was sent an email invite to the shindig! And my friend and I got some free stuff! I got the. Coolest. Earrings. I'll try to feature them here soon.
It was awesome!
On Saturday, I met a group of girlfriends for dinner and had a killer eggplant sandwich!
But back to the object of my affection.
Before he left to visit his family for a week, he said that he'd call me when he gets back.
I'll admit I was bummed that I wasn't going to hear from him, but I reasoned that we've only been seeing one another for about three weeks, and it's expected for him to compartmentalize his family visit separate from anything that is going on with me.
All my girlfriends agreed. I decided that I would just wait and see what happens when he gets back. (sometime today)
That is, until my friend's new fiance said he thought it was weird that McTwitchy would not even text me while he's gone. Then I bummed out a little.
But I have been thinking it's still not as much of a red flag as the many red flags Mr. Burns waved at me over the years.
After we had been dating more than a year, Mr. Burns went back East to visit family, and as I drove him to the airport, he said, "Don't be mad if I don't call you while I'm away."
WTH? That is NOT okay!
I replied, "I won't get mad. I'll just know that you're not thinking about me."
Mr. Burns argued that I was projecting or something... and I said no, you don't ask me to write you a hall pass for not calling while you're gone!!! And why would you want to? If you love me at all, you should miss me, even plan to miss me... and can't help yourself from calling me!
It should have been perfectly clear then that he didn't really care for me.
But we tortured ourselves for another year or so after that! Ugh.
Please learn from my mistakes ladies!!
Meanwhile, I don't want to have expectations on McTwitchy. But I also don't want to make excuses for him like I did for Mr. Burns.
So I'm just going to see what happens when he's back, and we'll go from there.
My feelings for him have been tempered over the past week that he's been gone. I'm a little less twitterpaited... but I am still feeling the pitter-pat of excitement that hopefully I'll see him again soon.
I'm just not counting on it.
And I think that's healthy.