Saturday, August 06, 2011

Potential

Hello bloggy friends.
When last we exchanged ideas... I was intrigued by the gentleman who showed a real investment in getting to know me.

How do I explain what has happened since then?
How about: He's doing everything right.  Eh?  How about THAT?!

He asked me to meet him for drinks, with the possibility of dinner, because... in his words... he was optimistic that we would hit it off.   I liked that, but then for some reason, when he called to confirm, I was feeling skeptical (too much talking to girlfriends on my part! - that's a fine line you know!).

We met at a rather happening downtown place, enjoyed drinks and endless conversation, and it was obvious we would have dinner together.  The poor waiter had to leave and come back several times because we couldn't stop talking long enough to look at our menus!
Later, he walked me to my car and told me he wanted to see me again.  I agreed.

He had a trip planned and was out of town shortly after our meeting.  By that weekend, I was tempted to  text him, but reminded myself to LET HIM PURSUE ME!  Within an hour or two,  he texted me a greeting from his vacation. Nice.

We had another date in which he offered to pick me up.  For the second date, I decided that was okay as long as I planned to meet him in my building's entry.   When he buzzed, I ran downstairs to find him waiting with a lovely bouquet of flowers!  So we went back up to my place to put them in water... I was stunned by his sweet and formal gesture!

Dinner went the same... non-stop conversation.
He laughs at nearly everything I say... I smile like a dork the whole time.
He walked me to my front door and said that he was really enjoying getting to know me.  I agreed. A polite kiss and hug and we were off to our separate corners.  (really a 'polite' kiss, as I felt a cold coming on... and I was right.)

Out of town again... he sent me a meaningful message during his vacation time.

Oh... and he locks me in for a future date nearly a week in advance.

I will say, this same behavior in other men has made me uncomfortable in the past.
There was a guy who brought me a dozen roses every time he came to see me, and it just came off as overkill.  Maybe that's because I don't really care for roses.  (seems the second they are cut, they smell foul to me)
I wondered for a second or two, if downloading a sampler of my favorite band was a bit much... but something about his approach ... it all struck me as sincere.
So this man seems to be hitting it out of the park right now.
I'm not saying I'm falling for him or anything just yet, but I have the attentions of a very good man and I know that.

Meanwhile, McTwitchy has detected that I have someone else in rotation.  He pointed out that he senses that I'm being distant...  and if I am, it's not intentional... I've been pretty busy with work... and then with some dates, so I haven't been available for McTwitchy...  plus a stupid head cold...  but oh,  I didn't tell you that he seems to be suddenly falling hard for me.  I told him if he wanted a third chance with me.... that he would have to be serious.  Have to have a plan and know what he wants.   I still don't think he's ready to do that... honestly.
So I don't know what he expects.
That's a whole other kettle of fish, as they say.
He asked me if this new guy had potential.... well, what could I say?

Yeah, loads of potential!

5 comments:

Genevra said...

Get out of your head and don't analyze! Oh, wait, that may be more for me... :)

He sounds like a very decent guy and possibly the reason his nice gestures don't seem creepy or over the top to you like they did with other suitors, is because there is a mutual interest and connection back.

I find guys I'm not really feeling a connection or deep interest in annoy me when they are in contact with me daily or ask me out again at the end of the date, etc. However, a guy that I feel a connection with and am interested in can do the exact same things and it doesn't annoy me at all. I find it sweet and charming. All perspective.

Good luck and how exciting! As for McTwitchy, I'm curious to see how that will play out.

DRS said...

Your post gives me hope for my own online adventures- thank you! As for this McTwitchy character, I can't believe he even has the gall to hint at a 3rd chance. Doesn't seem like it's a coincidence that he's suddenly interested now that you're interested in someone else. I've seen that before! I'm curious, why are you still in close touch with him?

TRS said...

Genevra... very true. Reminds me of the SNL skit demonstrating what IS and is NOT sexual harrassment in the office. Everything the unattractive Guy does is harrassment... but when the goodlooking Guy does it.... its okay!

D... mctwitchy and I feel its a matter of timing. He was not in a place where he could concentrate on a relationship and I was tired of being neglected. We decided that we liked each other enough that we didn't want to break up and never see each other again. ... so we're friends. He seemed to ramp up his interest when I signed up for match. Unknown to him. Interesting.

DRS said...

Good luck with the new guy and all that may or may not happen w/McT- you sound happy & excited in your posts. Can't wait to hear how it all turns out!

Anita writes... said...

Very interesting date indeed. I have nicknames on my blog for the people I date. Always wonder how it would be if they ever bumped into the blog.

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