Thursday, November 26, 2009


I know my life is not perfect. It is filled with challenges and complications that often frustrate me.

Finding the ideal job after 14 months of unemployment/ underemployment - and getting laid-off a year later. Finding a really good man and having to break up because something keeps him from being 100% invested. Buying a condo all by myself - and having the worst neighbor in the history of the world move in below me!!!

I know my life is not perfect. I know that no body's is. But it does seem that some people are charmed. Nothing seems to go wrong. Everything goes so smoothly, you wonder if they even notice.

Like the friend who announces her pregnancy to everyone she knows the second the stick turns blue. Really? You're not worried the stick is wrong, or that the pregnancy won't stick?
When every other friend I know dealt with at least one miscarriage before they had a pregnancy they could announce - it seems like just assuming everything is going to go perfectly is akin to taking that blessing for granted.

Or the friend who has to make up problems. With her husband's support, she's a stay at home mom - but stresses that their house is too small for their children to be proud of. That the baby's room isn't 100% Pottery Barn. Precious time with your children and enough blankets to be warm, no matter the label or thread count is nothing to take for granted.

So today, I am thankful for the challenges in my life. I can't take having a job for granted, I can't take a man who loves me unconditionally for granted. My parents, in their 70s are healthy and hilarious - can't take that for granted.

I've always said that taking so long to find the right guy - I would never take my husband, or the fact that I have a husband - for granted. And I don't think I ever could. (should that day arrive!)

Doing without should make a person appreciate that which she has.
I'm grateful for the challenges in my life because they make me appreciate the sweet, simple, easy stuff all the more.

Happy Thanksgiving!


Mary said...


I haven't commented on your blog before, but I've been reading it for a while. I think a lot of the time you speak common sense. Those of us who have family, jobs, homes, etc. should be thankful for what we've got instead of always thinking about what we imagine we haven't got.



erinannie said...

Thank you for sharing what you are truly grateful for, tangible or not. It was a beautiful list.
I have shared several times in the last few weeks that I am thankful for Facebook and blogs. Each time I get a strange look from my listeners. But it is true. Facebook and blogs have brought several people into my life that I am grateful for- you especially! They have given me the chance to love more people and more often.
And for that, I am truly grateful!

Genevra said...

I agree so much. The last sentence is my favorite. Nicely said.

Anonymous said...

While it is wonderful to be thankful, this post makes you sound a little bitter and judgemental. :( I hope that's not the case! -Jen

Anonymous said...

This was really touching...Your grateful attitude is both sobering and inspiring ((hugs))

TRS said...

Jen ~
I actually recognize that! It's still bothering me that it is both bitter and grateful... but we as humans are imperfect.
When I wrote it - I was thinking of a (former) friend who seems to be missing the majority of her blessings because she's looking for something else, something more.

That's something I too, am guilty of - and I convicted myself of it here!