tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8987305.post4863796557404635728..comments2023-05-06T08:45:27.865-06:00Comments on Single Solitary Things: Love and LovingTRShttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09801686710086039781noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8987305.post-68576113804587737352010-08-20T17:46:53.364-06:002010-08-20T17:46:53.364-06:00In regards to the question the young man asked yea...In regards to the question the young man asked years ago...<br /><br />I think timing has so much to do with loving. If you can't love someone the way they need to be loved WHEN they need to be loved, then yes, I think the other person should be free to move on and find someone who can fill their needs. It is possible that in some time, you might grow, you might be able to love that person the way they need to be loved, and it is possible that maybe it would work out for the two of you.<br /><br />But they shouldn't be made to wait until you grow into that place.<br /><br />God gave us each a need, and someone to fill that need. And it is a magical wonderful mix of miracles when it works out right.~iferhttp://www.themindofifer.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8987305.post-83440493803444162362010-08-19T22:29:55.123-06:002010-08-19T22:29:55.123-06:00@ Genevra - Mr. Burns did try to speak my love lan...@ Genevra - Mr. Burns did try to speak my love language. He did, but couldn't get it. And to be honest, I wasn't very good at speaking his either. We really did try.<br /><br />@ CS - So nice to hear from you! And Bingo on all you just said!<br /><br />@ Jinxie - glad to help. I certainly don't know it all. But sometimes an example helps.TRShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09801686710086039781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8987305.post-20495275095638901142010-08-19T20:25:00.974-06:002010-08-19T20:25:00.974-06:00Another friend just asked me today what I wanted f...Another friend just asked me today what I wanted from a partner to balance me out. I didn't answer, because I don't know, at least not in words. This post is helping me flesh it out a bit, but I'm still I'm not sure I know. The good news is that I'll probably figure it out as I go along. :)Jinxiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10134218984402450077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8987305.post-79670540256515298012010-08-19T18:10:11.925-06:002010-08-19T18:10:11.925-06:00So happy that's it's been an easy and comf...So happy that's it's been an easy and comfortable relationship :-) <br />I got what you were saying and even understood it from some experience too. My experience was with the same person, but by the work of God, that more uptight person also became the easygoing person and the change (which was sustained) made ALL the difference in how comfortable and loved I feel. <br />Now I can tell you from his own admissions that that uptight person is a sign of a person who has serious relationship issues/scars/secrets to work out. I am certain it is more than an issue of different love language, but also indicative of a love deficiency. <br />It is def. best that things with Mr Burns didn't work out since that issue hadn't changed.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8987305.post-57442589979026943992010-08-19T18:05:33.515-06:002010-08-19T18:05:33.515-06:00I couldn't agree more. Naturally speaking the...I couldn't agree more. Naturally speaking the same love language is fantastic. The person being willing to try to communicate love to you in your love language, even if it does not come natural to them because it is not theirs, is also fantastic.<br /><br />Love only takes you so far if there is not respect and kindness to back it up. Pooh on Mr. Burns. I'm not a fan of his. At all. But I am of McTwitchy. :)Genevrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03533225261228782347noreply@blogger.com