tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8987305.post4135054789260362722..comments2023-05-06T08:45:27.865-06:00Comments on Single Solitary Things: HierarchyTRShttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09801686710086039781noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8987305.post-40938981422125396172011-10-11T20:16:40.278-06:002011-10-11T20:16:40.278-06:00Melissa - like you I have been single my entire ad...Melissa - like you I have been single my entire adult life, and I have to do everything for myself... so I can relate to the hesitancy toward suddenly giving up power, leadership and authority to a man. <br /><br />Although, as the commenter right after you pointed out... One who truly puts God first would not abuse his position. I have more thoughts about this and plan to do a few posts about it coming up. <br /><br />@ Anonymous... how refreshing to hear from you... I am especially intrigued that you identify as a Muslim, yet concur with our Christian ideas. It's a small world after all! You have no idea how beautiful your comment is to me! Thanks for stopping by!TRShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09801686710086039781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8987305.post-32533098156483721102011-10-10T01:19:26.973-06:002011-10-10T01:19:26.973-06:00Really interesting TRS!
As a Muslim I can totally ...Really interesting TRS!<br />As a Muslim I can totally relate. In Islam the husband is without a doubt, the head of the household. In any organisation there can be only one leader. But as you said, God is above both, and ultimately both husband and wife are obliged to follow God first and foremost. And in following God, the wife's duty is to follow her husband. now this doesn't mean she is a door mat by any means, and she is entitled to her won rights which are fair and advantageous for her.<br />In most Islamic marriages I've seen where this is implemented and upheld it is a beautiful thing, because most men do generally consult their wives on a constant basis and they both want to keep each other happy for the sake of upholding a peaceful and happy marriage in the eyes of God. And as you point out also, that when you put God first you wont abuse your position in any form anyway.<br />Reading you posts for time I have been, I can see you endeavor to put God first yourself and I say good for you! I truly believe when you put full faith in God that He alone created you and beautifully sustains you, He wont let you down. We are all tested with different things and perhaps this one is yours, but hang on in there!<br />Roze xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8987305.post-55092832911611542252011-10-03T16:21:23.400-06:002011-10-03T16:21:23.400-06:00You state things so well. I really enjoyed this po...You state things so well. I really enjoyed this post. It's a tough one for me, regarding putting the man above me. Maybe I need to learn more about what exactly the Bible says about it. Being 39 and never married, I've had to learn to do so many things for myself. And I believe I do them as well, often better, than many men (say, for example, decisions regarding my money and retirement savings). I have trouble accepting that just because men have external sex organs between their legs, that they are somehow the chosen ones to be 'above' the other sex. People have their strengths and weaknesses -- why are the men automatically assigned as stronger? I think the couple should find a good balance between them based on who's better at what. If they can't agree on who's better in a certain area (like money) it doesn't make sense to me to decide a toss-up by just saying 'ok, it's the man then, just b/c he's a man.' I'm probably in an unusual situation though b/c I'm doing fine, even very WELL, all on my own, with money and other decisions. Maybe I can understand and come to terms with what the Bible says about this someday! For now, not so much. Thanks for your well-thought-out posts! I enjoy reading every single one.Melissa in Ohionoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8987305.post-33741922212574852092011-09-29T02:58:37.679-06:002011-09-29T02:58:37.679-06:00You, my dear, are always amazing. I love that you ...You, my dear, are always amazing. I love that you have the heart and bravery to post about this. <br />In my religion (Mormon/LDS for those of you who don't know me, but I know TRS does know that already), our marriage covenants actually specifically state that the woman will love and honor her husband and put him above her AS HE PUTS GOD ABOVE THEM. God does not need to speak to two people, when two faithful people should have the faith to rely on just one of them to receive answers. The harder burden truly is on the woman in that she must have faith in both the Lord and in her husband that he will go to the Lord in faith. <br />I look around at the women I know now, who got married at such young, young ages and wonder if they had any idea what they were doing. How can you possibly ever know your own faith well enough at age 20, let alone trust in the faith of another person at such a young age, to make lasting, eternal covenants?erinanniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15033894841051002279noreply@blogger.com